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Recommended Reading: Thich Nhat Hanh

Thich Nhat HanhAre you always re-resolving to “be more present” and “enjoy life more,” only to get knocked down by the bumps in the road of your life?

Do you struggle to handle emotions like sadness, anger, guilt, jealousy, and loneliness?

Do you feel like you suck at meditating, because you just can’t stop your always-working mind?

Do you try to engage in a mindfulness or centering practice, but you feel like you’re doing it all wrong? Like you can’t breathe the way you’re “supposed” to?

Get thee to a bookstore or library, STAT.

This book changed my life.

How to Get Lucky

Four-Leaf Clover by Bill Selak

Are you ready to get lucky?

“Some people have all the luck.”

“I’m just unlucky in love.”

“She just got lucky.”

Is luck a story you tell yourself?

How empowering is that story?

Yes: some things come down to the luck of the draw.

You can’t control what you started out with.

Sometimes good (or bad) things happen to you that could have just as easily not happened to happen.

You can’t control certain aspects of who you are, even if you wanted to.

Right now, though, I want to focus on the things you can control.

If you “get” these 9 things that are totally within your control, chances are you’ll get lucky, too.

How to Stop Wasting Your Time

Three hours later...

Three hours later…

If you’re like—oh, just about anyone—you’ve had that moment.

Perhaps you have it many times a week.

One minute you’re sitting down “just to check something real quick,” and what seems like the next, you’re an hour or two in.

An hour into Facebook commenting and sharing, Hulu clicking, TV watching, or thumb twiddling, you realize that you have just completely wasted an hour of your time.

You’re not recharging, relaxing, or replenishing.

Instead, you’re procrastinating, and further draining yourself, sinking further into inertia.

Stalling on taking action—any action—that will actually move you forward, feed your soul, or enhance your relationships, business, or life.

From Finance Banking and Investments to Software Technology and Entrepreneurship


Cliff Stevens, Founder/President of Lokadot, LLC

“Your career transition doesn’t have to be this difficulty—this unwanted disruption. It can be a brand new door that’s open for you…”

Your whole life, you’ve been dreaming of doing this job.

You went to school, studied hard, passed the tests, got the credentials, made the connections, and landed the perfect position.

Except…now that you’re actually doing the dream job, it turns out that it’s not at all what you thought it would be.


You finally found a job you love—a job that’s a great fit for you—and then that job disappears. Suddenly you’re starting over again.

What are you supposed to do now?!?

6 Videos That Will Cheer You Up, Inspire You, or Maybe Even Change Your Life

Before I Die

How do you remember
what’s really important?

It’s stunning how just 6 well-invested minutes can transform you.

Once in a while I come across a video that breaks open my mind—or my heart—in the most wonderful way.

Each of the videos that follow has the power to create a huge shift in me and in many of my clients.

I turn to them for different reasons—when I need comfort; when I need to be brave; when I need to look beyond my own world; when I need to snap out of a pity party; when I want to get out of my head, get out of the future, and get out of the past, and just be right here in this day.

The next time you need a shift, give yourself a 6- to 22-minute gift and watch one of these videos.

How to Communicate with Confidence: Dealing with Sticking Points and Confidence Killers



Do you struggle to communicate with confidence?

Do networking and dating make you suuuuper-nervous or exhausted?

Are you intimidated by striking up conversations with new people?

Do you wonder how some people make it look so easy?

You are not alone.

For LOTS of us, talking to people can be scary!

But there’s no doubt about it: relationships are central to everything in our lives, and communication is central to every relationship.

That’s why one of the most important and fundamental steps you can take to improve your relationships, career, and your life is to be a confident, powerful, and effective communicator.

Good news! I just taught a free class on this subject, and I’m sharing it with you today.

It’s Not You—It’s Everyone

If They Only Knew...

If they only knew…

You’ve heard that dirty old dumping line: “It’s not you—it’s me.”

Well, today I’m here to tell you:

It’s not you—it’s everyone.

So many of my clients feel shame about some aspect of how, who, and what they are, or in something they have done.

I call these things the “If They Only Knews,” because many of us fear that if people only knew these things, they would know how mean, bad, selfish, and unlovable we really are.

Talking to Yourself: What Would You Say?

Boy with baseball mitt--Tim Massey

What would you say…to you?

Imagine you could go back in time (as the adult you are now) and sit down with your 6- to 18-year-old self. What age would you pick, and what would you say?

Write down your response to this question before reading on.

For real!



A few weeks ago, I asked everyone in our thirtyawesome community to share your answers to this question. I was inspired by your responses, and struck by the common threads that ran through answers that were sent in from so many different people.

Across the board, the responses centered around four main themes:

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