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Handling the Holidays When You’re in Transition: 7 Steps to Take Care of Yourself

9 Comments / Breakups, Career Change and Fulfillment, Everything, Happiness, Relationships, Transitions / Carrie

No doubt about it—the winter holidays can be particularly poignant when you’re in transition.

This time of year is a common “taking-stock” time. As you go to festive parties or head home for the holidays, you can’t help but think about what your life was like this time last year, and the year before, and the year before.

If things were better last year—you had a job you loved, or you were in a great relationship, or you were happily single instead of dealing with the fresh heartbreak upon you now—the comparison can feel really sad, frustrating, or overwhelming.

On the other hand, holidays can be a time of deep awareness of what hasn’t changed.

If last year you vowed that this would be the year you finally (fill in the blank), the realization that it wasn’t can hit hard.

If you were stuck last year, and you’re still stuck now, still feeling in transition, you can get sucked into a defeatist mentality. “I’ll never figure it out.” “I haven’t made any progress.” “I guess I’m just the messed up sister.” …

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Interview: From Barista to Fundraiser

2 Comments / Career Change and Fulfillment, Everything, Happiness, Interview, Relationships, Transitions / Carrie

“I thought I would do things that made me happy, but I never once imagined any of them making me any money.”

Rae and I discuss her career journey from “slinging coffee” to being a non-profit fundraiser, and how she ended up finding her passion in a job she landed in—a path she describes as “random, to say the very least.”

You’ll hear about:

the importance of champions and mentors
identifying and packaging your transferable skills
how to make yourself happy (she’s talking to you!)

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3 Family (or Friend) Games for the Holidays

5 Comments / Everything, Relationships / Carrie

Want a new way to bond with your family during your holiday gathering?

Are the old standbys getting stale, or do you find yourself wishing for ways to go beyond stories you’ve heard hundreds of times and learn more about your family?

Here are three games you can play that don’t require more than yourselves and, in one case, scraps of paper and pens.

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Why You Can’t Get Yourself Out of Bed in the Morning: 7 Questions to Help You Kick Your Snooze Button Habit

12 Comments / Everything, Happiness, Procrastination & Productivity, Transitions / Carrie

Aloysius sleeps — Just five more minutes…

Ever since I was a little girl, I have struggled with getting out of bed in the morning.

If you’re engaged in a never-ending battle with your alarm clock, you’re not alone. So many people share this struggle!

Especially when you’re in transition—working all day at your regular job and then all night on your “second job” of transition; dealing with the emotional upheaval and exhaustion of a breakup; not feeling compelled by your current career or the demands of your daily grind—it can be hard to get yourself up and into action each day.

Here are some questions you can ask yourself to help you get to the bottom of your eternal challenge, and to break the habit. …

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6 Ways to Shift Your Attitude Toward Someone Who Drives You Crazy

7 Comments / Career Change and Fulfillment, Everything, Happiness, Relationships / Carrie

Is someone on your team at work driving you crazy?

Is another member of your club or association significantly impacting your enjoyment of the activity?

If your job or activities require you to spend time with someone who continually pushes your buttons, it’s time to go back to the age-old, sometimes-annoying-but-always-true fact: you can’t control anyone but yourself.

Instead of focusing on what the object of your irritation is doing, choose to change your own approach to the situation.

Irritation can reinforce itself; if you don’t shift your thoughts about the person, your frustration is bound to increase, and it will likely have an impact on how you are showing up and acting yourself.

Here are six tips for tricking yourself out of annoyance and into proactive transformation.

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“Multi-win” Ways to Make New Friends

3 Comments / Everything, Moving, Relationships / Carrie

Let’s face it—putting yourself out there to make new friends can be scary.

It can also be more than a little disheartening when you harness your courage and put in the effort to get out there, but don’t make a connection.

One way to keep yourself encouraged to try new social things is to choose events that have multiple-win potential—meaning, more than one good thing that can come out of them.

When you try a multi-win activity or event, you can be less attached to a particular outcome. Chances are you’ll get something great out of it no matter what—and maybe a new friend to boot!

Another advantage to all of these ideas is that they offer a built-in focus or conversation topic. If you are shy and often struggle with how to strike up a conversation, choosing one of these activities lets you off the hook because there is already a shared focus in place.

Here are five multi-win ways to put yourself out there. …

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5 Ways to Improve Your Workday (That Have Nothing to Do with Work)

2 Comments / Career Change and Fulfillment, Everything, Happiness / Carrie

Struggling to get out of bed in the morning because you’re dreading what the day holds?

Dragging your heels as you get ready for another day at a job you don’t love?

Here are five tips you can use when you’re not at work to transform the time you are there. …

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