Transitions

Do This Before You Make Your New Year’s Resolutions…

Lots of people make New Year’s Resolutions, but most people don’t take the time to reflect on the year that has passed.

As a new year begins, we’re often in such a hurry to “fix” ourselves and our lives that we don’t stop to take stock of the year that’s ending.

Often, we just make last year’s resolutions over again, and end up a year later in the same situation with the same goals and the same frustrations.

When you hurry ahead into a new year without looking back, you’re likely to miss out on reaping the benefits of the previous year.

Here’s a tool that will help you harvest the learning and “gold” from the year that’s drawing to a close.

Happy New Year!

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Hey, thirtysomething.

As we launch into another holiday season*, I’m thinking of you.

Panicking that your career is not where you want it to be.

Panicking that your relationships, or lack of relationships, will never change.

You may even feel guilt on top of the panic: after all, you are so blessed, and you are supposed to be grateful.

Becoming an Ex: 5 Steps to Take during a Breakup, Move, or Career Change

From the very beginning, this summer has been a pretty intense walk down Memory Lane here in Carrie-town.

It started in the technically-not-summer-late-spring, when I walked down the street and saw the shades up and a big “FOR RENT” sign near the front window of my first apartment in Philadelphia.

I pressed my nose against the glass and looked at the empty space.

Memories came flooding over me, in a clearer and more visceral way than they had in years. I couldn’t pull myself away. …

Bumps in the Road: How to Deal with Being Vulnerable and Build Resilience through Change

Vulnerability is a part of life, no matter what. It tends to be significantly heightened if you are pushing yourself to grow, taking risks, and moving through a period of transition.

The good news is, there are strategies that can really help you to manage the vulnerability of change and putting yourself out there.

Learning and practicing these strategies will build your resilience muscles, and help to carry you through the ups and downs of your journey.

Resilience is a practice, not a destination—so be kind to yourself, and know that it’s normal to feel knocked down from time to time. Here are some ways to get back up: …

I’m Questioning My Job, My Relationship, My Home…Am I Normal?

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Are you questioning everything?

“I’m feeling all this weirdness lately. I feel apprehensive, depressed, frustrated, insecure, self-critical—all this at a time when trees are blossoming and temperatures are more—well—temperate. Spring is supposed to be a time of rebirth, of hope. Yet I feel worried and at times sad…” …

Are You Paying Attention?

What are the world and the people in it trying to tell you?

If you feel lost, it might be time to listen. up.

When I was in the midst of my own career transition, I didn’t know what I wanted to do, or even that it would involve a career change, but I did know some sort of change was on the horizon.

And that, in and of itself, was scary as hell. Not knowing what that change would be made it even scarier.

As I was trying to figure it all out, inventing my own transition, cobbling together an outline so that I could write my own mysterious next chapter, I didn’t feel like I had a roadmap at all. …

Need Advice? Kristin and Dannielle Tell You How to Be Vulnerable, Love Yourself, Laugh More, and Be Who You Are

Carrie, Kristin, and Dannielle

“You are not the only person feeling the feelings that you’re feeling. You’re not the only person struggling with [these] issues…you’re not alone.” —Kristin Russo

“You have to learn to love yourself for a million different reasons.” —Dannielle Owens-Reid

 

I know that lot of you are asking yourselves one or more of these HUGE questions:

I get that vulnerability is important—but it’s so hard!! How do I make myself vulnerable enough to connect to people and be honest about who I am—even when it’s scary to be my real self?

How do I cheer up and find laughter and happiness, even when everything sucks?

How do I learn to love and accept myself?

How can I get help with questions I’m too embarrassed or afraid to ask?

How do I quit my day job to follow my purpose and forge my own path?

How do I come out or transition when I’m already in my thirties?

My kid just came out to me…OMG. What do I do?!?

You are in major luck: I have some amazing answers to every single one of these questions for you. …

Why You Need to Share Your Scary Goals

Who’s cheering you on?

I’m gearing up for an opportunity I never imagined I’d have, and it got me thinking:

How do we take care of ourselves when we’re venturing into new territory?

When we’re going for something that we really want?

If you are doing something a little scary that really matters to you (and I hope you are—because that means you’re growing!!), tell at least one person what you’re doing, why you’re doing it, and that you are scared.

Here’s why: …